Strange how when we are living what we call a normal life and are satisfied or happy with what we own or have, we never question why. We assume it is how things are or must be in life. We take everything for granted and believe that it is our right to live like this and that we have earned it somehow. It is only when we are faced with a problem that the first thing we ask is why. Why me? What have we done to deserve this? Why now? But then we read:
“The words of the scroll slowly, first in Japanese and then carefully translated into English:
‘There is really nothing you must be.
And there is nothing you must do.
There is really nothing you must have.
And there is nothing you must know.
There is really nothing you must become.
However. It helps to understand
that fire burns, and when it rains,
the earth gets wet. . . .’
‘Whatever, there are consequences. Nobody is exempt,’ said the master.” Robert Fulghum
What distinguishes us from others is the way we handle obstacles or face the consequences of actions. Do we go on moaning and wailing and complaining for the rest of our lives, for no matter how long, or do we just suck it in and try to find a way out? In the words of Robert Fulghum:
“It doesn’t matter what you say you believe – it only matters what you do.”
We hear people say all the time that there is a silver lining behind every dark cloud, or there is light at the end of the tunnel, the same way we think or believe that others have it easier and in a way are luckier. We believe that bad things happen only to us and that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. The grass:
“Is not, in fact, always greener on the other side of the fence. No, not at all. Fences have nothing to do with it. The grass is greenest where it is watered. When crossing over fences, carry water with you and tend the grass wherever you may be.” Robert Fulghum
Assuming that the grass is greener, once we cross that fence to the other side it becomes our job, our responsibility, to keep the grass green. If we cross with the same spirit, with the same heavy heartedness, chances are the grass is not going to stay green for long. It is not only important to get over to the other side but it is important to do so with some change of heart, with some hope no matter how little and why not some optimism too. After all:
“It’s the spirit here that counts. The time may be long, the vehicle may be strange or unexpected. But if the dream is held close to the heart, and imagination is applied to what there is close at hand, everything is still possible.” Robert Fulghum