“God was there anything more solid, more right, than knowing your child was where she ought to be? Safe and sound.” Jodi Picoult
To me as a parent safe and sound would be in their rooms under my roof. To me the best part of the night would be when I retire to bed knowing that both my kids are home in their rooms. There were times though that I would complain to my late husband that my son was spending too much time playing on the internet. His answer would always be, “Where would you rather have him? Outside or here in his room?”
Parenting is perhaps the hardest job on earth (I would say). Specially with the advance of technology and the internet, children nowadays are not safe even in their own rooms. How do we keep them safe from all the harms of social media? How do we prevent them from falling victim to bullying on Facebook or twitter, or texting? How do we supervise them and their actions, knowing very well that for any child belonging and being loved and accepted by peers and friends means more than words from and the love of parents.
How do you go on supporting them knowing deep in your heart that they were in the wrong? Praying and hoping all the time that they won’t get hurt. How do you keep them from harm’s way even if they are in their rooms? In the words of Jodi Picoult:
“You signed no contract to become a parent, but the responsibilities were written in invisible ink. There was a point when you had to support your child, even if no one else would. It was your job to rebuild the bridge, even if your child was the one who burned it in the first place.”
So how do you prevent them from making bad decisions? How do you tell your children that the choices they are making or the people they are associating with are perhaps not the best for them, without alienating them from your life? We have all been there. At some point in my lifetime I have done the wrong things and followed my friends, knowing that what I was doing was wrong. Because I didn’t want to stand out, I wanted to belong.
As parents we can’t wait for our children to grow up. As parents we also have choices to make. And when we find ourselves at any crossroads in life, we are sometimes destined to take the wrong turn. Since we also are not experienced to be parents. Even if we are, sometimes what we do with one child might not work with the other. So how would we know? What do we do before it becomes too late. Because as Jodi Picoult said:
“Hell wasn’t watching the people you love get hurt; it was coming in during the second act, when it was already too late to stop it from happening.”